Monday, October 31, 2016

Negative Comments.

I have had my blog for a few years now and over that time frame, I randomly get some nasty comments or some haters. I shrug them off for the most part and pay them no mind. Almost all of my readers are amazing. They are kind, genuine and full of love. Typically though if I write a post about my dogs, who are pit bulls, I get some nasty comment about how vicious these dogs are and how they should be killed. people can suck a elf for all I care. Someone I get some nasty message sent to me on my Instagram on my weight loss. I like to ignore them for the most part. I do not like to give anyone the attention they are craving. I block them and move on with my life. If I give them the attention the crave then that is giving them what they want. 

I have noticed though on a certain site which shall remain nameless, so many bloggers like to tear each other apart. Why do people feel the need to go on a site, remain anonymous, and tear apart every little aspect of another persons life? If you do not like what that person is writing about, putting on their Instagram or sharing about their life, STOP READING IT. If you think they are fake, STOP READING IT. It is a pretty simple equation to figure out. I figured out. Over the years there has been plenty of bloggers that I outgrew or they changed and I was not into their blog anymore. I just unsubscribed to them. Instead of hate reading someone, tearing them apart and hurting their ego and self esteem, I just stopped reading them. 

As a society, for some reason, we find it acceptable to be mean and malicious online. Why is it that when we are unknown, nameless faces online, is it okay to be hurtful mean girls on the internet? Why is it okay to tear about someone and evaluate that persons life as if we are allowed to judge them? Most of us blog for fun. We blog as an outlet, not a job. I blog for a hobby. I do not need someones approval to do this. If you do not like, do not read it. To many bloggers have stopped blogging over the years because of hate reading, mean comments and people being so mean to them behind a computer screen. 

We need to be kind. We need to practice kindness. If you are sweet, nice and amazing in person, be that online to. Do not be a fake person behind a user name. Be the same person 24/7, no matter who you are and where you are. Do not fall into cliques and cliches. If you think someone is a witch and a horrible person, just ignore them and stop reading what they write. It is simple and everyone can figure it out.

Friday, October 28, 2016

Finding Your Blogging Niche

When I started blogging 4/5 years ago, I never really knew what I wanted to write about. I would blog about the dumbest stuff sometimes and did not ever know what I was talking about. I remember seeing a few bloggers one day before I ever thought of having a blog and thinking, I can do that. I can do just what they are doing and thinking how easy it looked. Blogging is not easy. It is hard and difficult. For me, the biggest part was finding what I wanted my blog to be about and what I wanted my readers to take from it. I still struggle with that sometimes.

For me, as of lately, my blogging voice/niche is more of a fitness/weight loss/inspiration style. I am focusing on my self, my happiness and where I see my self going from here. Finding my blog niche, is something that has taken a long time. It did not happen over night and it has taken years. It has taken me not blogging for a period of time, it has taken me revamping my blog and finding my self. It takes work, energy and finding your self.

I find that the big things that help with finding what drives me to write:

  • Who wants to read this?
  • Is this something others can relate to?
  • Am I able to help inspire or influence others?
  • Can I grow from my own story and learn from them?
  • Where do I see myself going from this?
  • Is this something I think people will get enjoyment from?
  • Can I get views and comments?
My blog voice/niche is not for everyone and I know that. You have to find what works for you. If you love sports, write about sports. If you love cooking and baking, do that. Do not hide who you are. Feel open to be yourself and write about it. I hid who I was for years on my blog. I was scared to open up and share the real me out of fear I would not be accepted into the blogging community when in all reality, I was the only person not accepting me. Be yourself and everyone else will love you. If they don't, they will not read and you will not have to worry about them. They are not worth the stress. You need to find something you are compassionate about and just write.

Thursday, October 27, 2016

New Rachel. New Blog Look.

I figured it was time for the blog to keep a new look. It had been a few years since I revamped this place and it was definitely due for it. I feel like it has definitely been an upgrade and my blog reflects me and how much I have changed over the past year. I have made a lot of changes in my life since January. This past year I wanted to make this the year of me and that is what I have done. I have focused on my weight loss and making my self happier. I haven't let things get me down and I haven't let people bring me down. I have lost 40 pounds and found a whole new Rachel, a whole new person that I was hiding away and I am not letting that person go.
My blog is still under construction. I added some new areas, like my Project Fitness area as I am pretty fitness driven and love working and running. That will be up and running soon with all of my workouts and OCR races. I will have coupon codes and other fun things in that area so make sure you check it out once it is done.
I have to give a big thank you to Sarah from Venus Trapped in Mars. She did all of this. She is super talented and I have loved all of her designs. She has an amazing blog and I am super jealous of her blogging skills and photography. I wish I was that good but sadly I am not. She does have some pretty awesome tutorials on her blog though so make sure you check them out. I know I do on the regular.
I hope to everything done and working within the next few weeks. I haven't focused on my blog as much as I would have liked this past year but I am really getting back into it more as I love the way it looks and feel like it is more me than it used to be. It no longer feels like a chore but feels like it is fun and exciting again! Let me know what you think of the new design and make sure you go check out Sarah's blog!

Wednesday, October 26, 2016

3 Years.

I can not believe it has been 3 years already. 3 years ago today I go the worst phone call of my life. My nephew was shot and killed. I was in Pennsylvania for my friends son birthday and we had just finished eating and we were having cake. My mom's friend called me and told me my nephew had been shot and he was at the hospital. I remember falling to the ground and I remember being confused. I got another call after that no, he was not at the hospital, that he was dead. 

That call was the worst call of my entire life. He was shot at 12 years old. Killed. I can never see him again. I can never hug him or tell him how much I love and miss him. That weekend, he wanted to come over but I was going out of town. Guilt has eaten away at me for years now. I can't let it as I can not sit around and wonder. All I can do is remember him, mourn him, and love him. 
Dax was an amazing child. He was rambunctious, obnoxious, and loud. He was full of energy, life and cared about everyone and everything. He had big dreams and wanted to see and do everything. Sadly, that will never happen. He is now in heaven. His father has since joined as he passed away last year. 
Dax was amazing. I would give anything to have him back. He was my world. He may of only been my nephew but to me, he was like my son. I saw him multiple times a week, did anything he wanted and would give him anything he wanted or needed. Dax and his sister are my everything and will always be my everything. I am so lucky to have been blessed with an amazing nephew for 12 years. I am lucky to have been able to been his aunt.

Thursday, October 20, 2016

Weight Loss Update.

Yall...I am only 3 pounds away from my goal of losing 40 pounds this year. I want to be 155 by Christmas which will be 10 months from when I started working out and really pushing myself to lose this weight.This morning I weighed my self and the scale said 158. I am loving seeing that number go down and down and down. It is such an accomplishment to be losing this weight and knowing it is from hard work and dedication. 
Currently I am going to the gym 5-6 days a week. I work out for a hour to hour and half. I like to do 3-4 miles of cardio and then the rest of the time I am doing weights. I was super scared of weights at first when I started, but now, I love them. They are amazing. I feel like that is part of what has really helped me shed the poundage off! 

Compared to what I did look like when I first started until now, the difference is amazing. A good bit of my clothes are way to big and I need to go buy news one but unfortunately, my wallet says No No No! Christmas is coming! That is one of the hardest parts of weight loss, everything is way to big now! 
This girl below, was miserable, unhappy and everything I wore fit so tight I felt like a stuffed sausage. That is not the case anymore! 
The only sad part is my PCOS has yet to go away. I have had to get back on birth control to help regulate my periods and hopefully help my ovulate because as of a month ago, nothing is happening. I am happy though. I am not letting anything bring me down or slow my thunder! I am slowly losing this weight and doing what I need to do to find who I want to be. 
To date..I have lose 37 pounds. I have lose it on my own. I am not using miracle pills. I am not using a special diet or paying for some membership to a online workout coach. I go to the gym and workout. I eat right. I motivate myself.

Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Pinteest Fall Loves

I love fall and with fall comes fun crafts and decorations. That brings me to Pinterest!  I have found so many amazing ideas for decorating and crafting on Pinterest. That site is amazing and I am not sure how I functioned without it for so long. I figured I should share some of my pin-spiration with you guys! 

Let me know some of your favorite crafts below and make sure you follow me on Pinterest! 

Thursday, October 13, 2016

Rugged Maniac Fall 2016 Part 2 Virginia

I ran Rugged Maniac a little over a week and a half ago. I would of had this post up sooner but ya know, bronchitis will make you go MIA for awhile. I love running OCR races and Rugged Maniac is by far my favorite race. This was my 4th time running the race and I have lost 35 pounds since the last time I ran. I am in the best shape of my life and I was super pumped before hand to see how I would do this time.

I had never ever tried the warped wall at the end. If you do not know what the wall is, here is a nice video from Youtube of others trying it. Now bear in mind, the day I ran it here in Virginia, IT WAS A MUD PIT!


I was able to make it up the wall my first try. MY FIRST TRY! Do you know how amazing that felt? I got up there and hugged the volunteers and screamed! It was the best feeling in the world. I wish I would of gotten it on video. I tried to record the race on my GoPro. Little tip for anyone using their GoPro cameras for these races, clean out your memory on your camera before hand. I did not and my camera was full 17 minutes into the race. I am a moron and did not get any footage of the good obstacles. 
It had rained for almost a week straight here so the course was SUPER muddy and it was actually pretty hot for it being October. It was a fun course though. We did the race in about 1 hour and 15 minutes. It was so much. I recommend every one to try it. I will be running it again this spring! 

Tuesday, October 11, 2016

Tips to Keep Your Dogs Healthy + a coupon

This shop has been compensated by Collective Bias, Inc. and its advertiser. All opinions are mine alone. #BestPawForward #CollectiveBias

If you have read my blog for long, you know how much my dogs are my life. I take their health and well being very serious. I always make sure they are healthy and taken care of. It is one of the things that is a top priority in my life. Thankfully, Giant Food is putting its #BestPawForward and helping me with this.  You can now find a wide range of natural, healthy pet products that vary from dry and wet food and treats. They are designed for your pet's health and wellness in mind. I also love the convenience of being able to get my groceries and my dogs food and treats in one place! It is a one stop shop. 

Purina DentaLife was launched this year and it features a range of oral maintenance of treats for dogs and cats. Now, for me, my dogs have some bad breath and this is a relief for me. I was super pumped to find this product and be able to get this and try it out with them because sometimes when they want to give you kisses, that breath can be to much.

Coming up on October 16, the local paper will have a coupon for $2 off any Beyond 3lb bag Dry Dog food, $3 off any Beyond 13# or larger bag Dry Dog food. I know I will be taking advantage of this coupon since I have two dogs with two different diets. 

Now here are some quick steps to help you keep your dog healthy and happy:

1. Give your dogs Purina DentaLife to help with their oral care. My dogs have bad breath. It helps with the odor and keeps their teeth clean.

2. Give them a bath. Dogs need baths just as much as we do. My dog has allergies to a good bit of stuff so it helps to get her fur and skin clean. Plus, she smells so amazing afterwards!

3. Go for walks. All dogs need exercise and need to stretch their legs. 

4. Make time for cuddles. My dogs require atleast 30-60 minutes of cuddles a night. I believe all dogs need this to know they are loved.

5. Play time. I make sure my dogs have toys and tons of play time. They are always playing together and having fun. I think that is what makes a happy dog. 

6. Make sure you feed them the correct dog food for their type/breed. We have two dogs. One is allergic to grain. One is not. We have to buy two types of dog food. Luckily for us though, we can get Purina One and Beyond Natural Dry Dog Food  at Giant Food. They are great wellness aids.

What are some tips that you have to keep your pets healthy? Let me know below!
Don't forget that you can try the new Purina DentaLife with a $2 coupon available here

*Not to be taken as professional veterinary advice. Please consult your veterinarian for recommendations and practices appropriate for your pet.*

Monday, October 10, 2016

Sorry for the Absence.

I am sorry for the absence lately on my blog. I ran Rugged Maniac the other weekend and the very next day I came down with bronchitis. I was out of work all week last week with it. I do not think I have ever been this sick in my entire life. I mean, I have bought so many cough drops, over the counter meds and I am pretty sure I looked like death at the doctors office. I had no makeup on, my hair was a mess and they made me wear the mask of shame. In case you are not getting the picture, here is a actual picture for reference. 
I am starting to feel better but I still have a nasty cough, my head hurts and I am congested. I want another zpac but I am not sure if the doctor will give me one or not. This cold is no joke. It had me out of work for a week, no gym for a week and I am still not able to go to the gym. I miss the gym. I really really miss the gym people. 

I promise to blog more this week! I am sorry for my absence last week but it was for the best!