Over the years I have learned what it means to have a true friend. Recently, I have learned even more which ones are true and which ones are not. I have one friend, lets call them Jane, that I was good friends with for a long time. We were best friends when I was in high school and stayed friends when I went to college. I was such good friends with this person that I was very good friends with the entire family as well. I spent holidays with them, stayed at their house more than my own. When I moved away from the state, we stayed friends and I included this person in my wedding. We did grow apart but I thought we were still friends.
At some point it became me being the one putting everything into the friendship and Jane not putting anything into it. I got very tired of this. So tired to the point I went off on her and told her what I thought. I deleted her and her family from my life. Awhile back, either before my nephew died or after we reconnected. I try to be her friends. I make efforts. I try to talk and chat with her. I invite her to stuff but she never says yes. She used to get mad at me when I went to things with other friends but when I invite her she never would come with me.
This person is having a big thing happen to them in about a month and a half. It seems I have been excluded from it. At first, it hurt. Now, I could care less. I was not invited. I was not asked to be in it nor was I invited to anything pre-activities. I was very hurt at first about all of this but now, I just don't care anymore.
At what point do you just stop caring and move on? I believe I am at that point. I want to be her friend but that road goes both way. It takes 2 people to make a friendship work and I shouldn't have to put all the effort into it.