Thursday, October 17, 2013

Being Mean

Lately I have not been wanting to blog. I have honestly wanted to give this thing and just focus on the store and my life. I feel like I have lost my inspiration for my blog. I don't have topics anymore that I want to blog about and some days it takes me forever to just type stuff out. It mostly has to do with the negativity in this "blog world". I have a group of "friends" that I talk to and I love them dearly. I have a little through big and littles and I am loving getting to know her. There is still negativity there. 

Typically I shrug off all the mean stuff that comes through my blog, twitter, facebook or IG. I am just tired of it. Leaving nasty comments on my store account or someone else's accounts is not okay. What does that do for you? It makes you look sad and pathetic. Leaving anonymous comments on our blogs, still not okay. We read them, delete them and no one else sees' it but us. It still hurts all the same. I hide it and do not let other people know about it. Why do it in the first place.

The biggest pet peeve of mine is ignoring me. If I tweet you, you could answer me. What does a few words take out of your day? The blogging world has turned into the biggest Mean Girl game ever. There is no need for this. It is a HUGE WORLD. We do not need to be high school girls and make snide remarks on gomi, facebook, or even direct message our friends about other bloggers. It is rude. I do not talk about other bloggers. I try to find the good in every one. So should you. When you make comments about people, maybe you should think about what they have going on in their real life, outside of the computer screen. This is their escape. Do not judge someone from what they blog about. It is their outlet. Do not be a bully. 

If you do not want to be judged, talked about, or bullied, stop doing it to others. Everyone has had it done to them in their life and they know how it feels. It is not a nice feeling. It hurts inside and out. Just learn to be nice to each other and stop being so mean to everyone. If you do not like a blog, stop reading it. Do not read it and then talk to someone about how bad it is or how you did not like what they wrote. Just move on! 





24 comments:

  1. Love this! I agree being nice doesn't cost a thing!

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  2. I totally love it . Being meanie isn't hard but being positive and humble all the way is !
    Noor's Place

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  3. screw the meanies!! if you want I can go detroit on some people if you need!!!

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  4. Love this!! I will never understand why some people say such hurtful things. Just remember, the hateful words almost always come out of jealousy!

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  5. The easiest thing to do is not read something you don't like, I always feel a little bad when I unfollow a blog but it happens. Not everything written is meant to be liked by everyone.

    I'm not fan of being mean and bullying, it's not nice or cool.

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  6. Haters are gonna hate. It's always been that way and always will be. I like when people show their true colors, because I don't want to waste my time on aholes when there are so many awesome people out there. There's a saying - don't let the b$stards grind you down. Keep doing you!

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  7. Amen! As much as we wish we could say brushing off what people say is easy because we can be "strong", it still hurts. Good for you for standing up to the mean girl-ness out there!

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  8. I agree! Sometimes I fail to respond to tweets or emails, but I don't mean it to be mean. There are mean girls everywhere - not just in blogging. I am a big fan of telling them to F off and proving them wrong about you. Your store is awesome and I'm so sorry negative things have been said! :(

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  9. Well said Rachel! It's pretty simple really, right?! Keep on keepin' on girlfriend!!!

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  10. Preach it sista'! People are rude. And they like to make other people feel bad. I love ALL of your posts and look forward to reading them :). Keep on keepin' on!

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  11. Sadly the mean will always be around... human nature, I suppose. Just remove yourself from it, don't worry about them, and surround yourself with ppl / bloggers you enjoy who are kind :) There's lots of them out there too!

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  12. Well said and so true. I now remembered a tweet you sent me and I never replied :( so sorry!
    I cannot believe that there are so many mean people out there. If I don't like or agree with a blogger's post then I just close my browser and move on. Everyone has a right to their opinion.
    I love your blog! Keep blogging!

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  13. So sorry you're feeling this way! You can talk to me if you need to!!

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  14. Preach it, girl. You know I feel the exact same way. I love when you say, "maybe you should think about what they have going on in their real life, outside of the computer screen" I love that. So true.

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  15. So well said. While I love the blogging community for the most part, I 100% agree that it is really like an internet version of mean girls sometimes! There are the cool kids, and then there are the rest of us. I'm so sorry that you've experienced some negatively though! Stay strong and keep being you!

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  16. I agree with you. but, i don't just think it's the blog world, but girls in general. which is really sad. please know i'm always here!

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  17. you already know how i feel about this and you know i'm ready to punch "those who must not be named" in the face over the stupid drama they're causing! tell em to grow up and move on!

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  18. hey girl!! found you via nikki's blog AND of course since you messaged STS today. i am partnered with kim. yay! hang in there. this too shall pass.

    excited to get to know you!

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  19. I'm so sorry to hear that you're feeling that way. Mean people suck asshole. Don't let them bring you down! So many people would be sad to see you go so just stay put!

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  20. I'm sorry you've experienced this. The world is tough enough, us girls need to stick together, not be terrible to each other! <3

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  21. Don't let the blogging negativity run you out. I've been lucky in that I haven't had any nasty comments at all. I have seen the whole mean girl thing in blogging and I did let it get to me for a while but I'm totally over it. Stick to those who are polite and who you have made connections with and don't worry about the rest.

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  22. Ugh this ticks me off! I don't understand why women act this way towards each other. Don't let them get you down, love. I for one think you are awesome and I totally love your store. I haven't been feeling the blogging thing much lately either, just been so tired and not motivated to write! :/

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